THE LEARNING PATH / SEVEN LEVELS OF SHOWING UP
Everyday Partnership
Twenty-one short courses in seven levels, for anyone who is married, about to be, or simply trying their best. Each takes about fifteen minutes, ends with an examination and comes with a certificate you may leave casually on the kitchen table. Level I is free.
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21 courses · Newbie level free; all 21 courses US$5.99 · Included courses need no further payment
Communication
The Hint Is Not a Language
Ask for what you want in one plain sentence, and retire the three-week campaign of clues.
Free · Start learning →Domestic Arts
Done Means Done
On the difference between starting the laundry and doing the laundry, which is about three days.
Free · Start learning →Connection & Intimacy
Come and Look at This
What “Mm” costs you over a year, and how to look up before the invitations stop.
Free · Start learning →Everyday Logistics
The Invisible List
For the one who carries the list in their head, and the one who keeps asking how to help.
Complete the previous levels →Domestic Arts
More Than One Way to Fold a Towel
For people who re-fold the towels, and the people whose towels get re-folded.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
The Secret Scoreboard
For anyone keeping count in their head, and anyone who suspects they are being counted.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
Listening Without a Toolbox
Hearing about a bad day without issuing three solutions and a spreadsheet.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
The First Three Sentences
A complaint that is still about the same thing four minutes later.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
Sorry, Without the Footnotes
The whole apology, with no “if,” no “but” and no supporting documents.
Complete the previous levels →Connection & Intimacy
Date Night Is Not a Meeting
How to go out for the evening without bringing the house along.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
Friends, Hobbies and the Group Chat
Keep your friends, your hobby and your Saturday, and tell your partner before you tell the chat.
Complete the previous levels →Connection & Intimacy
Thank You, Out Loud
The kind things you say about your partner, finally said to your partner.
Complete the previous levels →Connection & Intimacy
Bedroom Diplomacy
Asking out loud, hearing “not tonight” with grace, and retiring the signals nobody ever received.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
The Eye-Roll and Other Small Weapons
A dinner party at which your partner’s story is allowed to reach the end.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
Disagree Without a Courtroom
An argument about the thermostat that stays, from start to finish, about the thermostat.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
Money Talks
Twenty minutes a month, the real numbers, and nobody rounding down.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
Whose Turn Is It?
Who the school calls, whose job bends, and who decided. Usually it was a form.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
Two Families, One Front Door
Both families are welcome. Neither of them lives here.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
When Life Gets Heavy
What to say when there is nothing to say, and who to call when two of you is not enough.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
The Art of Repair
How to end an argument before it ends the evening, and what to do about the toast.
Complete the previous levels →Connection & Intimacy
The Long Game
For anyone who knows their partner’s order by heart and has not checked since the honeymoon.
Complete the previous levels →Checking your course access…
LEVEL 01 / Show up. Start small.
Newbie
Three free courses on the three habits that cause most of the trouble: hinting, half-finishing and saying “Mm” to a phone.
Start here · all three courses free · 3 coursesCommunication
The Hint Is Not a Language
Ask for what you want in one plain sentence, and retire the three-week campaign of clues.
Free · Start learning →Domestic Arts
Done Means Done
On the difference between starting the laundry and doing the laundry, which is about three days.
Free · Start learning →Connection & Intimacy
Come and Look at This
What “Mm” costs you over a year, and how to look up before the invitations stop.
Free · Start learning →LEVEL 02 / Own the whole task.
Apprentice
Who carries the list, who re-folds the towels and who is keeping score.
Unlock after completing Newbie · 3 coursesEveryday Logistics
The Invisible List
For the one who carries the list in their head, and the one who keeps asking how to help.
Complete the previous levels →Domestic Arts
More Than One Way to Fold a Towel
For people who re-fold the towels, and the people whose towels get re-folded.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
The Secret Scoreboard
For anyone keeping count in their head, and anyone who suspects they are being counted.
Complete the previous levels →LEVEL 03 / Listen. Understand. Act.
Practitioner
Listening without fixing, starting a hard conversation gently and apologizing without footnotes.
Unlock after completing Apprentice · 3 coursesCommunication
Listening Without a Toolbox
Hearing about a bad day without issuing three solutions and a spreadsheet.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
The First Three Sentences
A complaint that is still about the same thing four minutes later.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
Sorry, Without the Footnotes
The whole apology, with no “if,” no “but” and no supporting documents.
Complete the previous levels →LEVEL 04 / Make room for us.
Specialist
Evenings out, lives of your own and the kind things you have only been saying to other people.
Unlock after completing Practitioner · 3 coursesConnection & Intimacy
Date Night Is Not a Meeting
How to go out for the evening without bringing the house along.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
Friends, Hobbies and the Group Chat
Keep your friends, your hobby and your Saturday, and tell your partner before you tell the chat.
Complete the previous levels →Connection & Intimacy
Thank You, Out Loud
The kind things you say about your partner, finally said to your partner.
Complete the previous levels →LEVEL 05 / Care without conditions.
Expert
Intimacy in words, small weapons put down and arguments that stay about the thermostat.
Unlock after completing Specialist · 3 coursesConnection & Intimacy
Bedroom Diplomacy
Asking out loud, hearing “not tonight” with grace, and retiring the signals nobody ever received.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
The Eye-Roll and Other Small Weapons
A dinner party at which your partner’s story is allowed to reach the end.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
Disagree Without a Courtroom
An argument about the thermostat that stays, from start to finish, about the thermostat.
Complete the previous levels →LEVEL 06 / Plan a life together.
Distinguished Fellow
Money, work, children and two families who both have opinions.
Unlock after completing Expert · 3 coursesEveryday Logistics
Money Talks
Twenty minutes a month, the real numbers, and nobody rounding down.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
Whose Turn Is It?
Who the school calls, whose job bends, and who decided. Usually it was a form.
Complete the previous levels →Everyday Logistics
Two Families, One Front Door
Both families are welcome. Neither of them lives here.
Complete the previous levels →LEVEL 07 / A practice. Not a finish line.
Master
Hard times, mending things and staying curious for forty years.
Unlock after completing Distinguished Fellow · 3 coursesCommunication
When Life Gets Heavy
What to say when there is nothing to say, and who to call when two of you is not enough.
Complete the previous levels →Communication
The Art of Repair
How to end an argument before it ends the evening, and what to do about the toast.
Complete the previous levels →Connection & Intimacy
The Long Game
For anyone who knows their partner’s order by heart and has not checked since the honeymoon.
Complete the previous levels →Ready for the full curriculum?
Newbie: free. All three courses, exams and retakes. Pass all three to earn your Newbie diploma and badge.
All 21 courses: US$5.99. One payment, no subscription. Or get the courses and your choice of Field Guide from US$12.99. Levels unlock as you pass their exams.
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